tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post8390712250646458942..comments2024-03-08T00:16:40.409+04:00Comments on ...and then: What the internet gave the Kerala man. (Apart from porn.)Sandhya Menonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08053854810427756673noreply@blogger.comBlogger138125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-89864930009395787782021-12-10T21:29:01.778+04:002021-12-10T21:29:01.778+04:00How to Attract a Man: 8 Ways to Get Him Notice You...How to Attract a Man: 8 Ways to Get Him Notice You. If you adore a man or are wondering <a href="https://shoutbabble.com/how-to-attract-a-man-8-ways-to-get-him-notice-you/" rel="nofollow">how to attract a man</a> you like, then you should definitely know these traits to make him fall for you instantly.shoutbabblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15856290974532558175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-84186973849006122502016-08-31T00:06:57.359+04:002016-08-31T00:06:57.359+04:00Reminded of something I'd written in May 2013 ...Reminded of something I'd written in May 2013 in response to the barrage of derogatory posts that did the rounds on social media following Rankin's alleged queue jumping episode at the Cochin International Airport. Nothing has changed, the points I tried to make then still hold water!<br /><br />http://hariwho.blogspot.in/2013/05/ranjini-haridas-and-mallu-male.html?m=1Harintellectionshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02362784560203819887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-77078929372779675152016-08-31T00:04:42.894+04:002016-08-31T00:04:42.894+04:00Reminded of something I'd written in May 2013 ...Reminded of something I'd written in May 2013 in response to the barrage of derogatory posts that did the rounds on social media following Rankin's alleged queue jumping episode at the Cochin International Airport. Nothing has changed, the points I tried to make then still hold water!<br /><br />http://hariwho.blogspot.in/2013/05/ranjini-haridas-and-mallu-male.html?m=1Harintellectionshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02362784560203819887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-19195051344738356792016-08-28T06:03:01.404+04:002016-08-28T06:03:01.404+04:00Ma'am,
With due respect for your writing, I w...Ma'am,<br /><br />With due respect for your writing, I would just like to point out that a fringe group cannot be used to make a general representation of a community. If all Keralite men were misogynists like you pointed out, the statement that you mentioned in your own article (about Ranjini Haridas being the best rated TV show host despite the hate) wouldn't be possible.<br /><br />But I'm glad you added the word 'If' in the last paragraph. Besides, we may be 97-100% literate, but we must also understand that all literates may not be educated. If schools and colleges of this day 'educated' us, what a world we would be in! One could be literate and still be uneducated. One could be literate and educated, but still remain unenlightened.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00703631677451989291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-8677676674166438242016-08-28T06:01:13.982+04:002016-08-28T06:01:13.982+04:00Ma'am,
With due respect for your writing, I w...Ma'am,<br /><br />With due respect for your writing, I would just like to point out that a fringe group cannot be used to make a general representation of a community. If all Keralite men were misogynists like you pointed out, the statement that you mentioned in your own article (about Ranjini Haridas being the best rated TV show host despite the hate) wouldn't be possible.<br /><br />But I'm glad you added the word 'If' in the last paragraph. Besides, we may be 97-100% literate, but we must also understand that all literates may not be educated. If schools and colleges of this day 'educated' us, what a world we would be in! One could be literate and still be uneducated. One could be literate and educated, but still remain unenlightened.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00703631677451989291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-11037563437576604122016-08-26T09:16:29.786+04:002016-08-26T09:16:29.786+04:00I second you. It does affect. I second you. It does affect. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07097859087697478167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-68383478742935888062016-08-26T08:17:54.641+04:002016-08-26T08:17:54.641+04:00I second you. It does affect. I second you. It does affect. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07097859087697478167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-8468229579220776382016-08-21T19:37:05.535+04:002016-08-21T19:37:05.535+04:00And, for God's sake, do you know that Kerala h...And, for God's sake, do you know that Kerala has India's best women-men sex ratio? Kerla society don't murder girl childs like the other states does!!<br /><br />And some lame lady will come from no where with a lame article and tarnish the pride of a whole society.nandalal sivadashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06779105614290297210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-91280922285258134332016-08-21T19:36:17.848+04:002016-08-21T19:36:17.848+04:00And, for God's sake, do you know that Kerala h...And, for God's sake, do you know that Kerala has India's best women-men sex ratio? Kerla society don't murder girl childs like the other states does!!<br /><br />And some lame lady will come from no where with a lame article and tarnish the pride of a whole society.nandalal sivadashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06779105614290297210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-437053002572209992016-08-21T19:16:37.159+04:002016-08-21T19:16:37.159+04:00This is so lame!! You say Malayali men are sexuall...This is so lame!! You say Malayali men are sexually frustrated? I remember one incident happened to one of my friend back in school, in the year 2005, one lady in her mid 30s Sat near him in a local bus when he was returning to home after school. This lady started running her hands on his thighs and private parts!!!! What will you call that? The holly love? <br /><br />There is this mallu girl, she used to tell me that she has a crush on me and stuff. But since I was already committed, I had to refuse her interest, well, normally that should be the end of it, right? But, she was not done!! She started sending me her nude pics!!!! Sexual frustration is the word.<br /><br />You go to any celebrity profile in instagram, open any of their photo and read throttle he comments. You will see sexual frustration from all over the world! I don't have time to take screen shots and make a long article like you did, but fact remains true. It's all over the world. Men and women alike.<br /><br />May be you should just relax! Utilize your time in a better way rather than trying to shame a whole society and men with out any deep knowledge of your surroundings!nandalal sivadashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06779105614290297210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-81955851675738518992015-04-08T08:48:04.293+04:002015-04-08T08:48:04.293+04:00Continuation... Till the 1800s sport was thought t...Continuation... Till the 1800s sport was thought to be duly masculine.Women were not allowed to take part in it.<br />Thus strutted around the boxing ring Mohamed Ali,Joe Frazer,George Forman etc.Now there is a doubt whether a male boxer <br />would get a hiding from a female boxer in the ring.In religion women have progressed to become bishops,pastors etc.So <br />these are some of the changes,only a tip in the iceberg.<br /> The world was patriarchal for millions of years.In the caveman era men were the hunters & women the gatherers <br />of food.If you are a believer in present dates 2000 BC & 2000 AD.That is the world was patriarchal for 4000 years of its existence.Only from the year 2000 to 2015 we see these sudden changes.This is the problem of Ranjini haridas.Ranjini haridas is a <br />small picture in a larger frame.In order to understand this we will have to understand the first part.The world cannot <br />accommodate the change in such a short time span.give it Give it some more time.Maybe a 100 years & the world may understand it <br />(the change in man woman relationships).Till then lets not classify people & put them under the microscope.<br /> Moreover it is a difficult situation.The male testosterone levels will have to come down in drastic measures <br />to the level of females to act identically.What at present is holding the male in check is court laws & fear of punishment. <br />Imagine a situation if one fine day courts & police were to be taken away forever.We could then never trust our neighbor. <br />women would once again never be able to walk freely on the streets,enter pubs & bars(no matter which place you live in the world, leave alone Kerala),walk safely around at night,as there would be Jack the Rippers at every street corner.Human beings are basically the same as generations past.Its not that this generation has suddenly become into all saints.Its the law that is holding <br />them in place.As Darwin rightly says it would take a million years for evolution to take place.That is man to change <br />his character & become more docile & as equal & same charactered as the female.Anyway lets hope all this is hogwash & pray that a situation will never arise when a war will arrive & law taken away.In the meantime may many more Ranjini Haridas's arise & have their day in the sun.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03333073578998285659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-12292859952518448052015-04-08T08:46:24.633+04:002015-04-08T08:46:24.633+04:00Lets start off by agreeing to the fact that human ...Lets start off by agreeing to the fact that human beings comprises of being either male or female.<br />All males are not being born as devils(bad),As this article seems to imply & all females as angels(good).<br />In the years past women were confined to mothers role & kitchen.Now they have come into public light & walk<br />alongside men in all strata of life.Other than physical appearance,the brain of man & female is the same.<br />Thus it is no surprise,that in modern times there is equal numbers of criminals,thieves,crooks,prostitutes, <br />pickpockets,pimps,frauds,drug sellers & addicts & terrorists among both genders.<br /> Change cannot take place in a relatively short time span or it will have its ill-affects.<br />This is exactly what has happened to this generation.They cannot take in changes in so short a time.<br />Women got their voting right in America around 1917 & in Europe more or less the same time. Old timers will know that<br />men were more or less in control in their homes till the 1970s.The Hippie movement hit the world in the 1960s, <br />which propagated the idea of modernity,rebellion against old norms & free sex.In this era women like Betty Friedan <br />came along & fought for women's rights.Then a small transition period when the world lay quiet & dormant as though<br />waiting for something to happen.Then the great year 2000,when internet TV & the new era arrived.With it words like New Generation,<br />Generation Next etc.Within the twinkling of an eye the world changed.The arrival of electronic media,shopping malls,multinational<br />trade or free trade & most of all relaxation of immigration laws.Whereby we see in most countries a multinational people as<br />its citizens.In India & Asian countries change came swiftly since the year 2000.women who were hitherto confined<br />to their homes & kitchen began to go outside their homes for work.All things taboo till now began to get thrown out the window.<br />They cut their hair short or even bald hairdos were in vogue,wore the pants around the house(as the old saying goes),lived single<br />or lesbian relationship as it suited them.All this was unheard of till now.Bars began to get open to women,so much so <br />that women occupied more space in the bars than men.Everything gender related began to be questioned in the homes,like <br />sharing of house work between the spouses,baby sitting etc.Every male bastion began to get broken down like jobs men thought<br />was forever his.Like the army,bus driver, train driver,pilot etc.The list goes on & on. To be continued...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03333073578998285659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-82487271365621773992015-01-17T02:15:35.711+04:002015-01-17T02:15:35.711+04:00Absolutely love it!....
So when I first came back ...Absolutely love it!....<br />So when I first came back to my hometown to do my higher studies i had alreadyy sinned... The sin being born and brought up in the middle east... and now tat was apparently written all over me... and in addition to it i was dark skinned.. so overnight i became NRI jaanu!!! The kind of abuses i've had to endure from seniours ..batchmates.. classmates in the four years was humiliating ..... By mean who aped the west by all their low waist jeans ...all the hanging out session in malls.. men who were there to watch angelina jolie smolder in the bigg screen.. but they couldn't have the dignity to not abuse women.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12954724850739756575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-75155179946803655442015-01-16T11:44:59.638+04:002015-01-16T11:44:59.638+04:00Sandyaa...ur work is so praiseworthy...i used to f...Sandyaa...ur work is so praiseworthy...i used to feel like that most of the"happy" families r running by the loyalty or sacrifice women in different forms in the name of love especially in Kerala..pathetic this cancerous attitude of people.😍murmurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04695984781228296640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-62790200950897059222015-01-14T21:23:04.103+04:002015-01-14T21:23:04.103+04:00Nice article. Well crafted sentences that convey t...Nice article. Well crafted sentences that convey the facts. But I would like to know on what grounds the author has mentioned that Kerala society is the worst in India. Because what i feel is that the author has compared Kerala society with the 'mixed up' cultures of the big cities such as Mumbai, Bangalore etc. You are so frustrated about the fact that a normal woman in Kerala cant go to a beauty parlor or dress up the way she likes; because she is getting judged. Lets look into the life of a village woman in any other part of India (a place equivalent to a village in kerala). She doesnot have a toilet at home, she cant even dress in the way she or even her family wants her to do. She has to follow what the village tells her to do; else she ends up either brutally raped or dead. Imagine what such a woman would share about her pathetic life if she had a computer with internet (and ofcourse the education to read and write). I dont think this situation existed even during our parents' time. See how much lagging they are from our society. <br />I would like to point out to the author that he/she should see each and every one as an individual and respect that. I cite an example for this. I have seen a lot of posts in support and against the kiss of love. And anyone who opposes it is a ‘moral police’ or a ‘freak’ in the supporters eyes; and anyone who supports it is a ‘cultureless’ person. Again, it is all a person’s freedom to support or oppose it. And there is a limit in judging and commenting on the other person. Because what you do is again going to get reviewed by the fellows in your society. You see, it’s a never ending cycle. So my point is girls and boys are going to be judged in a lot of ways, especially in a society like ours, where life moves on in a very slow pace compared to Bangalore and Mumbai. I am sure, even in Bangalore or Mumbai, if the people are given a month's off, the next thing they would do is interfere in their neighbour's life. Because it is a basic instinct.<br />Regarding Manju and Ranjini issue, I feel its too gross to put such comments into a social network. Even i feel that there is no tally between literacy and commonsense. But trolling and making fun of them is not that serious, because as somebody said in the comments, its an inherent behaviour of a Keralite to make fun of everything. But i feel it is just for fun and not to demoralize them in any respect. If you want to see how big is the set of individuals getting trolled in facebook, you can check out some pages like ICU, Troll Malayalam etc. You can see that they are meant for pure entertainment purpose only as in the case of mimicry and comedy skits we see. And the number of funny trolls on dileep is too large compared to that on Manju and Ranjini. And neither will you see a post on dressing style of a woman or slang words on women in these groups.<br /> To wind up, some views you have are quite good. They even blowed my mind. But I felt some are off topic, just some fascinations and sarcasms a typical younster will have about the society she lives on.<br />See, you judged the society, me and many others judged you, now its everyone's turn to judge me. And this process goes on and on. Thats why I said, whatever we do, we are going to be judged, be it in the present society or the future societies to come; unless the society gets too busy to judge the people around them.<br />If at anypoint I hurted anyone's feelings, Iam sorry for that. Thankyou.UMESHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11226402432202431942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-56075491052945233092015-01-14T21:22:19.503+04:002015-01-14T21:22:19.503+04:00Nice article. Well crafted sentences that convey t...Nice article. Well crafted sentences that convey the facts. But I would like to know on what grounds the author has mentioned that Kerala society is the worst in India. Because what i feel is that the author has compared Kerala society with the 'mixed up' cultures of the big cities such as Mumbai, Bangalore etc. You are so frustrated about the fact that a normal woman in Kerala cant go to a beauty parlor or dress up the way she likes; because she is getting judged. Lets look into the life of a village woman in any other part of India (a place equivalent to a village in kerala). She doesnot have a toilet at home, she cant even dress in the way she or even her family wants her to do. She has to follow what the village tells her to do; else she ends up either brutally raped or dead. Imagine what such a woman would share about her pathetic life if she had a computer with internet (and ofcourse the education to read and write). I dont think this situation existed even during our parents' time. See how much lagging they are from our society. <br />I would like to point out to the author that he/she should see each and every one as an individual and respect that. I cite an example for this. I have seen a lot of posts in support and against the kiss of love. And anyone who opposes it is a ‘moral police’ or a ‘freak’ in the supporters eyes; and anyone who supports it is a ‘cultureless’ person. Again, it is all a person’s freedom to support or oppose it. And there is a limit in judging and commenting on the other person. Because what you do is again going to get reviewed by the fellows in your society. You see, it’s a never ending cycle. So my point is girls and boys are going to be judged in a lot of ways, especially in a society like ours, where life moves on in a very slow pace compared to Bangalore and Mumbai. I am sure, even in Bangalore or Mumbai, if the people are given a month's off, the next thing they would do is interfere in their neighbour's life. Because it is a basic instinct.<br />Regarding Manju and Ranjini issue, I feel its too gross to put such comments into a social network. Even i feel that there is no tally between literacy and commonsense. But trolling and making fun of them is not that serious, because as somebody said in the comments, its an inherent behaviour of a Keralite to make fun of everything. But i feel it is just for fun and not to demoralize them in any respect. If you want to see how big is the set of individuals getting trolled in facebook, you can check out some pages like ICU, Troll Malayalam etc. You can see that they are meant for pure entertainment purpose only as in the case of mimicry and comedy skits we see. And the number of funny trolls on dileep is too large compared to that on Manju and Ranjini. And neither will you see a post on dressing style of a woman or slang words on women in these groups.<br /> To wind up, some views you have are quite good. They even blowed my mind. But I felt some are off topic, just some fascinations and sarcasms a typical younster will have about the society she lives on.<br />See, you judged the society, me and many others judged you, now its everyone's turn to judge me. And this process goes on and on. Thats why I said, whatever we do, we are going to be judged, be it in the present society or the future societies to come; unless the society gets too busy to judge the people around them.<br />If at anypoint I hurted anyone's feelings, Iam sorry for that. Thankyou.UMESHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11226402432202431942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-12322099742625919682015-01-14T13:18:42.646+04:002015-01-14T13:18:42.646+04:00I loved the article - especially since I could rel...I loved the article - especially since I could relate to most of the issues addressed (I suppose many other malayalee women would). But as I read a few of the comments , I felt a bit bad - about the way this reflects malayalees. The article is written from a general point of view - but there would be a lot of exceptions to the stereotype it is putting across. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03514629548702580767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-40151566204959027532014-10-03T02:54:42.382+04:002014-10-03T02:54:42.382+04:00I want to "like" the above comment! CatG...I want to "like" the above comment! CatGunHome, you win :-D Great article. ok scratch that. Amazing article. Better?Vineeshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02856036580970683913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-16104837213696428742014-08-24T09:44:07.349+04:002014-08-24T09:44:07.349+04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.pornxnxxsex.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00524905298986875352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-24137283857164196052014-05-19T03:40:15.085+04:002014-05-19T03:40:15.085+04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Furkanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13752671354721877673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-14794598522731797162014-05-15T19:40:13.169+04:002014-05-15T19:40:13.169+04:00Sandhya - the next target for these transgenders a...Sandhya - the next target for these transgenders are going to be you - beware!!. I totally agree to 110% what yo have said!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01239205014288942175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-13669061250615016372014-05-15T19:37:43.403+04:002014-05-15T19:37:43.403+04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01239205014288942175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-14198344086283123392014-05-14T11:10:35.836+04:002014-05-14T11:10:35.836+04:00I loved the article mostly because I could relate ...I loved the article mostly because I could relate to a lot of it. I also feel India on the whole needs to starts to pick whether we are being modern or we are being traditional and this applies to the men. While they love the concept of a hot girlfriend, they want their wives to be traditional, obedient and slaves to them and their family but also earn their keep. Decide guys... you cannot have it both ways.Ramahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07201448015977924494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-62812437577828482462014-05-12T17:29:52.740+04:002014-05-12T17:29:52.740+04:00Well written. Some part of the problem is the grow...Well written. Some part of the problem is the growing wealth gap between rich and poor and that in turn drives a big gulf in culture. But fundamentally, what I have observed is that women in Kerala are part of the problem. They are the first to comment negatively when a girl dresses modernly or goes into a career path that is non traditional or stays out late. If you speak to a girl for more than 5 minutes, they look at you with a serious eye! Girls and boys are not supposed to be friends. While I was doing pre degree, there was a professor (in his tuition class) who used to separate boys and girls with a curtain !! The worst part is the look that men in a group gives a girl. If you are a father of a girl, its a very scary look and its getting scarier still. I hope it will get better.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14592065342499793769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31009864.post-21789427312375193692014-05-08T07:51:33.173+04:002014-05-08T07:51:33.173+04:00Kudos! Someone had to speak out loud on the many a...Kudos! Someone had to speak out loud on the many atrocities and denigration women face on a daily basis. With many changes to Facebook privacy settings, there have been cases when beautiful young women (including me and many of my friends) post photos of themselves flaunting a new dress, a hairstyle make-over or a even an overwhelming moment after losing oodles of weight captured in a bodycon or a sheer dress, get obscene and disrespectful comments from strangers. It is to say that not only actors and non-celebrity folks face such harassment, even WE do. This needs to stop, and I am glad you have voiced this.<br /><br />Beautifully written piece!! Well done! :)Nivetha Gunasekaranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00439388695183915991noreply@blogger.com